The Second Time Around...

So this used to be one of my jams in high school.... I listened to it all the time. It is an awesome song that puts you in a great mood. There are so many emotions that this song conveys. It is truely an increduble piece of art. But I think I listened to this too much that I sort of burned it out. My last blog  talked about how trying new things is always better. How experiencing the "newness" of the world is what helps people to grow. I came across this song on youtube today and after listening to it, I have more to add to my blog. Sometimes doing what you know and staying within a certain zone can be to your advantage. Last night, as we were out in Bangkok, it was really nice to call it my home. When you are in an area for an extended period of time you can really find somethings that are truely worth your time. When you are in a new place or trying a new thing, it is almost as if all the lights are flashing and things seem so cool because they are new. But when you become familiar with a location, the glitz and glamour of places die, and it really gives you a keen eye for going to the places and trying things that are really worth your time. How fun was powerplant and Fed Hill the first few times you went? (for the most part) Because bars were new, things were coming into our consciousness for the first time. But then after the initial buzz died down, you kinda realize those places are mostly smoke and mirrors. But after getting to know Baltimore for a while, some really cool places came into play. So newness is not always better. I guess just the emotion and intensity that one goes into new situations with should be carried throughout life, not just when going somewhere new.

The same could be said for relationships in  a certain sense. The "honeymoon" phase. How great is that? Endless 3 hour conversations where you are learning so much about the person, it is so fun to be around their company, and everything they do seems wonderful. You are feeling one another out, romantically, intimatly, and intellectually. The first 3 or so months of any relatinship are awesome, because of the newness. And then things sort of slow down for a bit. It's how things work. You don't necesseraly become content with things, and stop pushing the envelope, but the initial newness just wears off I guess. That is where couples either sink or swim. Those that sink are the ones that just get frustrated by how things are, and want that "newness" to return. Just an FYI.... it wont. So as I have been taught, when something wants to change, you have to change the culture first. So the relationship has to change. It becomes a lot less about learning new things about your partner, and more about taking what you have learned and applying it. Finding the things that you both love to go, and going on epic drives, taking lots of photos, finding fun areas to explore. Thats what things are truely about. So when the 'newness' wears off..... you don't have to get upset and even look for something else that will bring back that feeling. You must adapt, and appreciate the small things.